Boundaries is the book that’s helped over 4 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.
Does your life feel like it’s out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone’s requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others’ feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you’ve forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it’s all of the above.
In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.
Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:
- Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
- What are legitimate boundaries?
- How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn’t control me?
- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
- How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
- How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
- Aren’t boundaries selfish?
You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!
Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life – dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.
Micki –
This book is well written and gives specific information towards creating and keeping boundaries. I highly recommend this if you have issues with just saying No or you are the one who gives and never receives. This book also helps you feel confident in setting up the boundaries and to not feel guilty.
Karla Itzel –
Muy bueno
becca –
I see myself so accurately in this book, struggling with boundaries and experiencing overwelms as a result. I am fully convinced by the necessity of growing in boundaries. And I learnt the very practical steps to make that happen. This book is trully inspiring and helpful, a must read for everyone who struggles with chaos and relational resentment.
cristina –
super!
Jessica –
i think everybody should read this book. it was incredible and it changed my life, i am a completely different person than when i first read it
Melanie P –
I chose to read this book after learning about it from a friend, and also to gain more insight in how setting boundaries is necessary. I agree with the principles, but also found myself wishing the book was not as biblically centered, so to share with those not well versed in biblical principles and thinking.
Timothy Bell –
Very heavy on Biblical reference, however the subject matter is very appropriate and accurate! Even if you do not participate actively in a Church, this book offers great insight into setting, maintaining and respecting boundaries!
Shirley –
I have been privileged to hear both authors speak at conferences and meetings – they are brilliant and compassionate!! This book is one I have recommended to literally dozens of people because we all need healthy boundaries, and this is the definitive book on the subject!!
alyssa –
A Christian friend of mine recommended this book and it was absolutely amazing! I enjoyed the way they included biblical versus and related it to God. It’s definitely a book that you keep and look back on. It’s applicable to everyone in some shape or form.
Brianna Brown –
I took a long time to read this book. I needed to think through the concepts and come back and re-read it several times. I’m glad I did. I loved this book. It was clear, based on biblical principles, and had great examples to illustrate the principles taught. It lays everything out in a way that makes it easier to implement in life – and warns that it will be a difficult change to implement, and explains all the difficulties you might face, and why, and why it’s worth it. I’m excited to learn more and practice these principles. I learned more about God, myself, and the people around me. I wish I could meet the authors. They were so helpful.
Emily Helal –
This book was recommended by my psychiatrist and I thought I should give it a go. Okay, it will definitely help you stop reacting out of anger or guilt and start responding from predetermined values and priorities. I just didn’t appreciate the authors citing Scripture as I don’t think psychology is compatible with the bible.
Mary –
Good examples. Good for any age
ErzaScarlet –
Excellent book! Wish I had this right when my bous turned 18! As a parent its hard to know boundaries when is too much, when is too little etc. Tough love is a tough lesson for the parent as well but it makes you both grow. The important thing is to pray before during and after you read this. Prayer changes everything. Ive grown while reading this book and ask God to open my heart and to reveal the things that I was doing or saying wrong. Yep sometimes as parents it can be us and that is a hard pill to swallow but of you can get over yourself and realize that its not about you but its about helping your child move into adulthood and removing yourself you will be more at peace. May you enjoy your new life as you read this book. Ive read chapter 1-3 over several times thays how impactful it is. The parent where the parents go to the therapist to complain about their son and he tells them…, ha I am not a spoiler buy the book or get kindle unlimited its on there. Be at peace and go live your life parents bc your adults kids are!!