In the decades since the initial publication of The Way of the Superior Man, society has changed significantly. Issues of gender and sexuality long confined to secrecy have become part of everyday conversation, and rigid ideas about our societal roles have begun to dissolve.
And yet, perhaps now more than at any time, men of all ages still “tussle with the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire.” In this unabridged audiobook of the classic guide to masculine spirituality, David Deida encourages men and women to lean into the conversation and offer their most valuable assets to the world—their authentic heart and depth of presence.
More relevant than ever, The Way of the Superior Man offers a view of a more conscious and embodied masculinity. “It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart”, writes Deida. “It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine.”
Including a new preface written in celebration of the book’s 20th anniversary, The Way of the Superior Man presents the next generation of with the opportunity to grapple with fear, cultivate trust in the moment, and put forth the best versions of themselves in an ever-changing world.
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Terrance –
Really digs deep beneath the surface of relationships of what each person expects and the pros of cons of individuals decisions they make.
Gabrielcyr41 –
This is honestly my top book of all time. So many nuggets. One after another the chapters are short and easy to read but are very thought provoking.
Kevin DC –
Great, clear and provide great insight of what it means to be a man
Would recommend to anyone who desires to be better as a man
Robert Lee –
this might change your life on the views of masculinity and femininity…even mentions nofap and refers semen as “life energy”. I already was on the semen retention path but this books confirms its power. this is a handbook for men and it will level up your life. it opened my eyes to how I treat my wife and it’s very true to the happy interactions vs the frustrated interactions. you will have better relationships with women after you read this and you will have a better approach. definitely recommend.
Pierced –
I am giving this book 4 stars. For myself, it is a 5 star book, but for men seeking enlightenment on the subject of women and relationships, do not expect to find “answers” here. The answers are in the practice of applying the concepts described in this book, and the book does not describe in detail exactly how to do that, and rightfully so, because such techniques cannot be taught in the pages of a book, they must be experienced first hand.
Deida’s work resides entirely within the concepts of polarity and energetics. These are things that are currently unmeasurable by scientific instruments, just as DNA and subatomic particles were not so long ago. If you are looking for clear cut scientific “facts” on the subject of men and women, then look elsewhere because you won’t find them here. Deida’s work is based on truths that you won’t find in science for years to come, but if you do not require “scientific facts”, and you are simply wise enough to look and feel inside yourself for what is true and what is not, Deida speaks more truth on the subject of men and women, relationships, polarity and love than any sect of Tantra, Yoga or any individual doctor, sex therapist, or pick up artist out there.
When Deida talks about the feminine and masculine, he is purely talking about energy, NOT the physical body of a man or woman. The masculine energy is defined by traits, the feminine energy is defined by traits, and the polarity between the two creates a balance in which the entire universe sympathetically operates.
If the Big Bang is the purest form of the feminine essence, than gravity, dark matter, dark energy, and black holes would be the purest form of the masculine essence. This relationship, the ying and the yang, the duality of the universe, has been present from the beginning of time, and is found in everything, especially within ourselves and our partners. Deida’s work is to define these polarities so a man and a woman can simply recognize them for what they are and work with them as they wish. His work does provide solutions to create a definitive balance between the two, and these solutions are simply tools to keep your relationship absolutely delicious.
Being a man myself, I was initially resentful of the fact that in Deida’s eyes, men are required to do all of the “work” in the relationship, while the woman expand into chaos. But when you truly understand the work and the teachings Deida is talking about, it becomes apparent that the woman’s role in being absolutely vulnerable, carefree, and not defaulting to their own masculine mind due to a lack of trust in their man is equally as hard, if not harder than what the masculine is required to do.
A woman can easily assume the role of the masculine energy, while the man assumes the feminine. It’s actually very common in Western Culture today. As long as the polarity exists, the relationship will always be delicious, despite the ups and downs; it just requires hard work and daily practice from both partners to achieve it.
My girlfriend and I have been practicing Deida’s work for a year. It’s insane. The ability to literally recreate the feeling of having taken ecstasy simply by engaging your partner is well worth the discipline, or maintain full body orgasms for 30 minutes, 4 times a day isn’t bad either.
And what does it all add up to? Well, nothing. It’s simply all for the sake of creating art through love while we’re here. It’s to be of service to others, to give our greatest gift, to experience love on a level very few people in their entire life will ever experience, and to die. There are no secrets to life buried in this book. You practice and serve your relationship, simply to experience love like it has never been experienced before.
This book is not a quick fix. You don’t just read it and have all the answers. Honestly, if you read this book and try to apply some of the advice given, you will probably apply it incorrectly and it won’t work because you will be missing the energetics involved. There is a teaching that needs to coincide with these words, that unless you seek those teachings and put them into practice, you won’t find all that much value here besides an interesting read and possibly a doorway into a new kind of life style.
This path is a hard one, but it is real and it is powerful. Women will find themselves insanely attracted to you and often times, might not entirely know why. It usually starts with men breathing properly, standing properly, and keeping their mouths shut.
If you’re willing to learn and actually apply the concepts in this book, and seek out the teachings that go with it, you will find fulfillment in your life and your relationship that transcends everything.
Since getting involved in Deida’s work, my girlfriend and I have dedicated every waking moment to it, and we have not looked back since.
Soumin –
Nice and great to learn about a man himself .be the best everything will go orderly.love to read again for some chapter .
Chris –
A lot of useful and relevant information in this book. I recommend
josh sweezo –
Hopefully a good a read
Smaller than I was expecting. Not happy about that. –
Wonderful book
jay morgan –
The title says it all. This book changed my life. I’m in my mid to late 20’s. I often found myself lost and longing for the woman of my dreams. I finally found her and knew I needed to change my way of thinking for myself and the future of our relationship. I can’t explain how spot on this book was for me and how I was making decisions in my life. Don’t be skeptical. Buy it, read it, change. It’s worth it. It’s the guide I knew I needed. I didn’t think I’d find it in this book but I did. LIFE CHANGING.
Jordi –
“The Way of the Superior Man” de David Deida es una guía profunda y espiritual para hombres que buscan equilibrar su vida profesional, personal y emocional. Celebrando su 20º aniversario, esta edición actualizada ofrece consejos sobre cómo enfrentar desafíos contemporáneos relacionados con el trabajo, las relaciones y el deseo sexual. Un libro esencial para aquellos que buscan un enfoque equilibrado y consciente en la vida moderna.
Cliente Kindle –
If you are a person with more masculine energy, you need this book. Just take the time to think of how you will apply its lessons in your daily life, though
Sandra Motta –
Muy buen libro