A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times best seller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.
For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently – and far less seriously – than its male counterpart.
That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it – and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
Coconut cotton –
I have a hard time focusing on books but I’m forcing myself to read this book because it’s so important. There are so many misconceptions out there and here is a doctor who will explain why YOU ARE NOT SICK if your body isn’t doing what you expect it to do. It’s so full of information I get overwhelmed but girls it is so important for us to understand our bodies!!!!!!
Here we now have a text that is being used in medical schools and when I had put it down at one point …my gyn recommended it to me so I picked it back up and I’m so glad!
***It sucks to feel broken, to think your hormones are off, that you’re aging etc. Girls, don’t need drugs; you need this book. Ps the libido drugs don’t work anyway…clinical trials say so.
Kaity Kat –
I have learned so much while reading this book! It’s been so helpful in understanding myself and sexuality in generally and really drives home that the stuff we’re taught to be ashamed of is normal. Science that is written in a totally accessible way broken up with examples, stories from other women and funny moments. This is a great book for people of any gender!
wayne arthur –
A coworker recommend this book to me and was instantly captivated by the topic. I’d listened to several talks by the author and I have enjoyed all of them. I could not put this book down. It was well written and very interesting to read. I’d recommend this book to anyone.
Amelia L. Day –
This book is truly life changing. On top of that, it’s very well written in a kind, funny, approachable style. Highly recommended!
LindseyL –
I learned a lot from this book, but I really struggled to keep reading it. It was too long and in my opinion repetitive, making it a little boring. If it could be condensed into about half as many pages, it would get 5 stars from me. I would still recommend it to anyone struggling with sex, self identity, relationship guilt, or just curiosity. It truly is full of great information, it’s juuuust…too thorough for me, I guess.
Aub –
This book is amazing!! Seriously a game changer for women!! Would recommend to anyone who is seeking more about women’s sexuality and how to find answers! It very much normalizes women!
Coconut cotton –
It saddens me that this book is mainly targeted to women. The way it is written it could have easily been a book for all genders. As a cis-male, I have gotten so much out of reading this, and I’m only half way through it so far. I would normally wait until I was finished with the book before writing a review, but I felt the content was incredibly helpful and valuable enough to post this now. I highly recommend that anyone and everyone read it.
The only qualm I have with it is when Dr. Emily mentions ignoring thoughts. For example, at the top of page 180 she says, “Practice ignoring the self-critical”. I wholly disagree with this. I would rather have heard her advise to NOT ignore it, and try to weave your way to the source of these thoughts and directly deal with that. From my own personal experience this has been the only way for me to truly absolve myself of them. Otherwise, ignoring just keeps them in the background, looking for a way back to the forefront. But, that’s me.
Melany –
O livro chegou super bem, ainda embalado e mega rápido.
A versão é revisada e por ser dos EUA em papel de jornal.
Pelo índice você já nota a complexidade do assunto, pois não só aborda temas sociais e dúvidas frequentes sobre o corpo como “se ele é normal, odores e formas” mas também uma parte mais biológica, que é muito bem fundamentada cientificamente e sempre mostrando as fontes de pesquisa.
Recomendo para todo tipo de leitor pois é uma ótima introdução para quem quer seguir fazendo pesquisa pelas fontes e também caso você só queira saber mais sobre o corpo humano. A escrita é mega tranquila, nada acadêmica, mas não deixa a desejar de informações.
Riley –
If you are in a relationship with a partner or just want to understand yourself this is basically a must read.
Bex –
Me cambió la visión sobre la sexualidad. Emily Nagoski es como la amiga experta que todos necesitamos, explicando la ciencia del placer de forma clara y accesible, sea cual sea tu educación sexual y creencias culturales. Es un libro que te abraza y te dice: “eres perfecta tal como eres”. Una lectura que empodera y educa, y que debería haber leído de adolescente.
k. johnson –
Versión en inglés, pasta suave. Venía nuevo dentro de su plástico. Gran libro que cualquier
Mujer en busca de su autoconocimiento sexual debería leer.
cdeuce –
Nagoski just hits the nail right on the head. Everyone needs to read this book regardless of gender. Just do it
Miriam S. –
very informative. great worksheets too. good for working together also, we talk a lot about it and it helps our relationship a great deal, not only in bed. helps me deal with unhelpful internalized beliefs. everyone should read this.